"Nice guys always finish last." "Girls don't like gentlemen anymore. All they want is douche bags." "You gotta treat girls like trash in order for them to like you." Do these lines sound familiar? These retorts are known to come out of the mouths of what I like to call "fake nice guys" or "self-entitled … Continue reading No, You Are Not a “Nice” Guy.
Earlier this month, former police officer Daniel Holtzclaw was, to my surprise, convicted of raping several black women. Following this trial via twitter has been tumultuous for me. Tumultuous, rocky, but nonetheless, draining. Daniel Holtzclaw targeted these black women strategically. He targeted poor black women in particular--mostly sex workers and drug addicts because he knew that they … Continue reading Rape Culture in the Black Community & How it Affects Black Women and Girls
Earlier this week, Amber Rose held her very own Slut Walk. If you aren't familiar with Amber Rose, just know that this woman is very dynamic. In fact, she's a great example of how women can be multi-faceted. She's a former sex worker. She's a former video vixen and model. She's a fashion maven. She … Continue reading The Significance of Amber Rose’s Slut Walk
The slur "hoe" amuses me. It's so subjective, so gendered, so unnecessary, and so intrusive. Subjective because no one can ever agree on what makes a woman a "hoe." You ask a group of people what a "hoe" is, you're gonna get 10 different answers. "Oh, it's a girl who's had sex with more than … Continue reading Let That Hoe, Hoe: The Downfall of Slut-shaming & the Power of Reclamation
I remember one night, I was out with my friend and her girls. We were sitting in the car, about to head out to a party when "Loyal" by Chris Brown blares from the speakers. Without hesitation, most of the girls in the car start vibing to it, singing the lyrics underneath their breath: "These … Continue reading The Normalization of Misogyny
You know the saying "actions speak louder than words?" Generic, right? But relevant? Yes. Always. You can say one thing but if your actions don't align, your legitimacy is invalidated. It's no secret that misogynoir (anti-black misogyny) is a bonding agent among many. Many people of all different races love to see the dehumanization and … Continue reading It’s Not Enough to Say “I love Black Women.”