Most people have a hard time imagining me as anything other than an opinionated, strong-minded, strong-willed, feisty ass Womanista. It's funny to me because me, 10 years ago, would've never imagined that I would be such the firecracker I am today. Growing up I was shy, quiet, and wildly insecure. So... how did I get … Continue reading Journey to Self-Love with Self-Care Along the Way
Alright... So where do I even begin? So much to unpack. Ugh, get a snack, a blanket, and get comfortable for this one. So... If you're unfamiliar with what's going on, Beyonce dropped a visual for her new single "Formation" this past weekend, a day before her Superbowl halftime performance. Her music video, in particular, … Continue reading Getting in Formation: Track Review & Social Commentary
"Nice guys always finish last." "Girls don't like gentlemen anymore. All they want is douche bags." "You gotta treat girls like trash in order for them to like you." Do these lines sound familiar? These retorts are known to come out of the mouths of what I like to call "fake nice guys" or "self-entitled … Continue reading No, You Are Not a “Nice” Guy.
Earlier this month, former police officer Daniel Holtzclaw was, to my surprise, convicted of raping several black women. Following this trial via twitter has been tumultuous for me. Tumultuous, rocky, but nonetheless, draining. Daniel Holtzclaw targeted these black women strategically. He targeted poor black women in particular--mostly sex workers and drug addicts because he knew that they … Continue reading Rape Culture in the Black Community & How it Affects Black Women and Girls
It's no secret that society holds unrealistic standards for women's bodies. She has to be shaped like a coke bottle. Thick thighs but no cellulite or stretchmarks. She can be a BBW only if she has a flat stomach and tiny waist. Big boobs but they can't be saggy. Absolutely no kind of body hair. … Continue reading Stop Policing How Women Express their Body Positivity
Earlier this week, Amber Rose held her very own Slut Walk. If you aren't familiar with Amber Rose, just know that this woman is very dynamic. In fact, she's a great example of how women can be multi-faceted. She's a former sex worker. She's a former video vixen and model. She's a fashion maven. She … Continue reading The Significance of Amber Rose’s Slut Walk
The slur "hoe" amuses me. It's so subjective, so gendered, so unnecessary, and so intrusive. Subjective because no one can ever agree on what makes a woman a "hoe." You ask a group of people what a "hoe" is, you're gonna get 10 different answers. "Oh, it's a girl who's had sex with more than … Continue reading Let That Hoe, Hoe: The Downfall of Slut-shaming & the Power of Reclamation